Negotiating Mahr

Mahr (dowry) conversations are often ignored or delayed due taboo or cultural expectations. ​

This lecture explains mahr rights, a decision making framework for determining your mahr amount, mahr type, and mahr conditions, as well as how and when to negotiate your mahr.

​Lastly, addressing how to legally enforce your mahr rights.

1 hour lecture by Sh. Joe Bradford

Timestamps:

- 0:00 Dua / Lecture Intro

- 0:47 Agenda

- 1:21 Why Are Mahr Conversations Avoided?

- 2:29 Four Reasons

- 2:38 Lack of Awareness of Mahr Rights

- 4:02 Fear of Conflict

- 4:40 Fear of Judgement

- 6:15 Cultural Sensitivity

- 7:13 Mahr - An Islamic Right

- 15:38 Low Mahr is Not Right, High Mahr is Not Wrong

- 20:35 Mahr Decision Framework

- 21:06 What is the Purpose of Mahr

- 22:19 Bride vs. Groom’s Side

- 26:32 When To Determine Your Mahr

- 32:13 How to Determine Mahr

- 32:52 Mahr Amount

- 44:52 Mahr Type

- 48:04 Mahr Conditions

- 50:48 Deferred Mahr

- 52:14 Mahr Condition According to Marriage Type

- 55:00 Nikah Only Marriage

- 55:28 Nikah + Legal

- 55:37 Nikah + Legal + Prenup

- 56:46 Mahr Negotiating System

- 57:00 Preparation

- 57:37 Communication About Mahr

- 1:00:35 When to Have Mahr Discussion

- 1:05:50 Who Should Initiate Mahr Discussion

- 1:06:54 How to Approach Mahr Discussion | Ethics

- 1:09:36 Negotiating Mahr

- 1:11:05 Enforcement of Mahr

- 1:12:12 Key Takeaways

By Nikah Masterclass (nikahmasterclass.com)