How To Vet A Potential Spouse

This lecture is broken down into five main parts: why vetting matters, when to do it, what to look for, how to approach it, and who should be involved.

We go over key areas like confirming someone’s background—job, finances, education, health—and share practical tools like the IKEA marriage test, doing basic due diligence, and checking social circles. The lecture also touches on cultural sensitivities, setting personal boundaries, communication tips, and includes real-life stories to show why this step is so important.

Timestamps:
00:00 Introduction and Objectives

00:17 The Importance of Vetting a Potential Spouse

01:07 Understanding the Vetting Process

04:30 The Role of Family and Friends

06:17 Mitigating Risks in Marriage

10:13 Enhancing Trust in Relationships

14:04 The Engagement Timeline

20:05 Verifying Information and Validating Perceptions

28:34 Financial and Health Considerations

38:29 Due Diligence in Marriage

40:14 Healing Childhood Wounds in Relationships

41:22 Validating Perceptions and Inputs

47:54 The IKEA Marriage Test

50:02 Vetting Potential Spouses

51:43 Q&A Session

By Nikah Masterclass (nikahmasterclass.com)